We have Nigerians in every corner of the globe, either legally or illegally, that’s not the subject of this article today.
To live in a foreign country is not an easy walk in the park, you need to cope with many things on a daily basis.
Do you wish to know about racism and discrimination against Africans in Europe and America? I won’t go into that area for now.
Let me tell you some true-life stories to stimulate your consciousness. Many Nigerians are living in shadows and stuck in several foreign countries, unable to visit their country of origin due to lack of required papers. That’s an open secret.
One ‘paperless’ Nigerian citizen worked in London for over 13 years under extremely cold weather, sending hard-earned money home for relations to assist him to build ordinary 3-bedroom flat, as his own retirement home after all the UK struggles.
To cut the long story short, his own relations fleeced and defrauded him, they did not even buy a plot of land, not to talk of building ordinary 3-bedroom flat. They sent him photographs of another person’s house.
Can you now preach ‘forgive and forget’ sermon to this lonely Londoner? Put yourself in his shoes and pray to pass through the same nasty experience.
This Londoner eventually got his UK papers and he travelled to Nigeria to hear the most shocking news of his life, useless elders in his family tried to appeal to him to accept the fraud as the ‘Will of God’, he returned to London with a partial stroke, unable to work again, currently on UK government welfare package.
Living in Europe and America is not so cheap, to send money to friends and relations or anybody back home, you either dip hand into your savings or work extra hours.You also have bills to pay either weekly or monthly in a foreign country. You also wish to enjoy your life with your family members. That’s the truth. Abroadians must apply common sense,you don’t need to help everybody in the family, even if you’re extremely rich, show them ways to make their own money, if they are dishonest or cooking up rubbish stories up and down, then cut off from them. Many family members and friends constantly lamenting of serious hunger and hardship are not really suffering, just taking advantage of ‘soft-hearted’ family members in a foreign country. That’s the conclusion from my personal investigation.
My friend established a bakery in Lagos for his 2 brothers to manage,he imported most of the machines from abroad, to cut the long story short, his own brothers ruined the business. One of them even married a second wife from the proceeds of this bakery.
At the end of the day, my friend kicked his 2 brothers out of the bakery, it was a big family tussle. The mother begged him to pardon his 2 brothers but my friend did not listen. Right now, this bakery is now under new management, total strangers, now making profits and my friend is happy again, gradually bouncing back. If he had allowed family sentiment to control his business, he would probably die as a poor man.
Some people not aware of the full story started spreading the rumour that my friend is a wicked man for sacking his only 2 brothers from his private company.
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If you’re an Abroadian with the mind of building a house or buying a property in Nigeria. Don’t involve your Nigeria-based family members, they are likely to ‘419’ you and you cannot do anything. Will you now use police to arrest and lock up your own blood brother or sister? Think about that for some seconds.
If you’re financially strong to buy a property in a foreign country, buy it, at least for the sake of your foreign-born children and your own retirement plan. Nobody is getting younger everyday.
If you can buy a property in Nigeria, go through the right channel, do your research before payment. Don’t let anybody use sugar-coated tongue to defraud you of your hard-earned dollars, euros, and pounds. Shine your eyes well well!
Many Nigerians believe family members and friends working in Europe and America under extremely cold weather always pick free money on the floor. That’s the stereotype.
Family members and friends must also ask Nigerians living abroad about their needs, not just be asking for financial assistance 24 hours per day. That’s wickedness!
“Hello my dear brother(or sister), I saw this African dress in Lagos Island market, it is going to be beautiful on your body, I will try send to you through a former classmate coming to London for holiday next week or use DHL to send to you”.
TO BE CONTINUED….