Recent court records indicate the number of couples applying for divorce within the last two decades have quadrupled.
It seems the thrills and bliss associated and expected in matrimony are gradually becoming an illusion for many.
Reasons for divorcee according to court papers ranges from domestic violence, monetary issues, sex and infidelity.
These reasons are actually not new in the age-long marriage institution but two key factors amongst others seem to be driving the chain of reactions.
Couples are increasingly becoming less tolerant to the factors listed above. Married women are now more assertive and vocal in expressing their feelings.
Statistics reveal more than half of those who initiated divorce proceedings are women. It is apparent a new consciousness and perception about the role, duties and expectations of a wife is unfolding.
Married ladies are also becoming bolder in expressing themselves which is a break from the traditional system that encourage subservience.
More women now speak out when they feel physically threatened or short changed. Many now have organisations and associations to reach out to for help or advice.
The implications of the new orientation seem to be responsible for the increasing number of divorce and separation. It seem the perception that a woman need to be married to feel complete has become out dated.
A new generation of young ladies believe it is normal just being babies mothers. Divorced ladies seem inhibited to the stereotype of being regarded as failures.
Ladies are competing with men in every field. This has enabled them economically and socially. The ability to make far reaching decisions about marital status is much easier.
Moral values are also changing. What is seen as sacred before is now normal to a growing number of people. Having multiple boy friends or keeping a relationship outside marriage is normal to many.
Is the marriage institution collapsing gradually? Though the glamour of a wedding is still a temptation for many, the pressure of living as husband and wife remains a huge the challenge.
This has reduced the life span of many marriages.
Tunde Jakande